Fisting and trust and the different ways of experience anal pleasure – The Experience of Fistdude

There are certain reasons to enjoy anal fisting as a man.

• youre open minded and enjoy a nice prostata massage
• you like pegging and to submit to your girl
• youre a devot anal slave
• you love your hole to be stretched or filled

There are certain preferred ways to enjoy anal pleaseure

• Prostata Massage
• Anal Hole Stretching
• Depth Training
• Strap-On, Toying, Plugs
• Punch Fisting
• with lots of lube or without and so on …

Like there are so many reasons and ways to fisting and anal pleasure there are at least 3 type of Tops and Bottoms

• The just in their Head People
• The feeling with their Heart People
• The feeling with their Guts People

Everbody can do the fisting – putting their hand in someone’s ass, but that doesn’t mean everybody can fist or even celebrate this intimate game.  Not every Fistee or Femdom can fit or adjust with every Bottom. But to find out whether it fits, its also a part of the whole game.  So, from becoming fisted to the point of celebrating an intimate game of interchanging and exploring energies can be worlds. And it doesn’t need only practice but further more developing a sense for the other body and an understanding of the subs needs.

So there might be many other reasons why you’re into the joy of anal fisting. Like there a so many reasons to come to anal pleasure, there are as many ways to explore and to play that intimate game. For that same reason I often avoid femdoms and BDSM dungeons. Because I am not submissive i am not devote at all. And unfortunately lots of the professional girls working as a femdom in a dungeon are used to have submissive slave guests who wants to be treated like a slave, but me not. I don’t like the girl to be too artificial to be concentrated more on their role as on their customer. I’m a silent bizarre connoisseur of the ultimate anal exploration. And with more than 16 years of experience I can tell, there are big differences!  If you submit to a girl as a man, you can sit on a gynochair and enjoy and feel what she is doing to you, that’s one nice thing, but the other is to literally melt with that other person. To perform the fisting sensual and deep in a kind of dance without words. Eye contact, grabbing her arm or pushing her towards you with your legs and feed, giving signals only with your hand. For that kind of experience the girl must be open minded and willing to explore and with a sense for the others persons body and mind. Not everybody is the same inside, not everybody enjoys the same style, some like stretching, some like punching, some like the depth play, some like pain and others prefer to go numb. Each time, each fisting is a whole new experience if its done right.

In most cases it takes time and a few sessions in order to really open up to a girl, to totally fall into her, to really submit with your ass. If you both enjoy the game and to explore the limits together there might develop a deep bond and connectivity towards each other which can be described as a spiritual experience. From time to time you get adjusted to each other. I give you an example: after having about 50 sessions with Adelina, she immediately felt when I was in a relaxed mood or not, when I was blocked or felt unsafe. And we both had the trust to go for the limit and to push the limits even further. We forced each other to go deeper, harder, faster, this is only possible if you’re a good team and experienced towards each other.  After a long brake I had a nice playtime with Fistlina and while she was going deep in me she said, oh wow, youre whole inner seems to be somehow adjusted to Adelina, its like she left a mark where her hand stopped deep inside of me. Fistlina was the first girl who fisted me regularly and so deep for the first time ever.

I once left that soul based trust to my top, to my favourite girl, due to a disappointing situation. After that moment I was able to perform the fisting, but the very special joy, the deep connectivity was gone and also the pleasure of extraordinary intimacy. From that moment on it was different. I felt like it would never be the same again. We could perform together, but I was not able to deeply switch of my mind and fall into hers within a serious pleasure play of interchanging energies. The potential for mindfuck experience were gone. There was something inside me broken or captured to not open up on a certain level we previously reached together and we were both proud of. I was afraid I couldn’t open up again, how can I totally submit to her if there is something missing I cant even describe. So I decided for a brake. And took the time to explore myself to find out about myself. Because fisting is also the wish and need to explore oneself to the inner core. And in the same time its a very intense and tough sexual play in order to feel something but in the same time to hide from inner feelings. Its a game of hide and seek, a way to escape into another world of intimacy and kink but without becoming real intimate with each other.

I have a few “play partners”  I’m doing the anal play for years now, Fistlina is one of them, she is fascinated by this game and is happy every time we get into that game. We had lots of Fisting experience together, she loves to open me up, to play with me, inside of me, but on her its different. I’m like her Play-Puppet, like a Tool for pleasure and experience. Its just on a certain level of intimacy and kinky shit, but after many sessions there is something like a routine, that’s keep missing, the part of the silent dance. So there is they way of fisting the fuck out of someone in a kinky assplay session and there is the way of fisting your mind and brain out to new dimensions, when you start loosing the feeling for time and space. And if you get the routine, you might get stuck.

Being the Teacher or Topping from the Bottom

One exciting thing is finding girls who are newbie and willing to explore, then you’re able to share the feeling of excitement and adrenaline together. That kicks me as well. I call it the way of the teacher. Its like Topping from the bottom. Being submissive but showing the way. From my experience I can immediately see and feel whether a girl is into fisting or just offering this as one of her many services. And despite this radar, I had lots of bad and disappointing experiences in the last 16 years. Anyway I wouldn’t write about those bad experiences, it makes no sense. All the girls you find on fistingqueen.net are at least experienced or open minded in this fashion or even experts in the field of anal fisting. I often get asked about, but there is no play partner where I can say she is best, or she is better than her. Because Fisting is not a sport! Its more an art. It depends on the situation on the amount of shared moments and on the trust you can develop towards each other. Sometimes there is 2-4 years brake between an experience I had with some girls and to meet her again. It also depends on the intimate connection you develop or experience during the fisting game. If you’re frequency matches you can get addicted towards this person and the way she is serving your needs.

Did Fistdude reached the limit?

To be quite frankly – Yes. With arm length of 74cm totally deep inside of me the limit seems to be reached. We can go for the stretch, but I don’t feel the need to. Footing doesnt work for me, it never worked out not even on the smallest feet, but that’s a head- thing. I’m not a feet admirer. When I reached my final limit with Adelina, something in the session was different I felt like, this is it, it cant get any deeper any closer than this. The top of the mountain was reached, I was afraid of what would come next. For the forthcoming sessions the thrill and excitement of pushing the depths was literally gone. There was no need anymore. It was like done on the to do list of my life. Fast Car – Done, Parachuting – Done, Deep Fisting record – Done. This was the time when a brake might be necessary in order to keep the magic in the air. But we didn’t, we kept on filming and started with toys and sex machines. This was the first time when I tried Fisting on drugs like 2CB or mdma, but this story becomes a separate post. But after reaching the Top of the Mountain I was somehow tired exhausted from the fisting play. Like is that everything? The peak of Pleasure?  NO – it was me and the right time to reconsider this kind of addiction towards my life. I went to a tantric expert and had other experience and views towards pleasure and sexual play.

If you into fisting, there might be something youre searching for. The adrenalin, the intimacy, the experience the different levels whatever makes you kink? I was trying to find out if I can archive that depths or that hardcore experience with other girls, like a pornstar, who just performs. Like getting to the Top but with other people or a different way.  So I looked around and had a few experiences. Due to fame of Fistdude and my activity on different plattforms and also my reviews on kaufmich.com it was easy to get in touch with the right partners. Nowadays I even get request from studio, girls and even couples who want to experience this hardcore anal game, who wants to learn from a “professional”.

I met sweet Carmen, she did her first real fisting with me. And she was totally proud about me and the experience with me. We rarely met, but each time we met it was unbelievable exciting. She developed a very good feeling for my body in a very short time. She is really able to feel whats coming how far to go this time and where to push the right button. And the way I open up and submit to her really turned her on. She became so incredible wet and horny sometimes she was unstoppable and in a total rush of sex joy. I could just lie on the bed and let her do all the stuff, to totally relax my whole body into feeling her arm. Its like when both playpartners merging into the same frequency and becoming demanding from eachother, feeling themself in the other, playing, pausing checking if this is still real, going on pushing limits and pausing in silence just enjoying the achievements. With Carmen it was just the plain fisting experience but combined with sex and joy we share and each time we met it was a total new and unforgettable experience. Then I met Inna PornStar again after about 2 years brake and we had some mindfucking conversation and incredible playtime pushing eachother to new limits. She told me she could remember every minute we played together for the first time, even after years, it was such an intense experience for her. I not only enjoy the intense playtime with her but also her honesty and straight forward personality and natural kink and sex addiction. All in all in my 16 years career as Fistdude I might had about 30 different playpartner experiences and thereof just 5 to became a regular playpartner with more than 4 sessions.

The older you become, your might still not know what you want, but already definitely what you don’t want in life or in sexlife. Many playpartners or many sexual experiences cant give you something that’s might been missed out of your childhood. On a spiritual point of view I can say that I learned a lot about women and how to interact with women due to the fisting and a lot about trust and self-confidence. If you don’t have the self confidence about your own body or in what you want to explore, the opposite partner wont hardly be able to serve your needs. You can have an orgasm but not been satisfied. Especially when it come to fisting on a spiritual level of deep satisfaction. The first thing is the trust in yourself, your partner shall be able to feel that the 2nd is the ability to trust the playpartner at least in the  technical way, respect and patience in doing that pleasure to someone.